FRIAR LAURENCE
These violent delights have violent ends
And in their triumph die, like fire and powder,
Which as they kiss consume. The sweetest honey
Is loathsome in his own deliciousness
And in the taste confounds the appetite.
Therefore love moderately; long love doth so;
Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow.
Romeo and Juliet, Act II, Scene V
The passion comes and goes, like a fire and power. Once consumed, it dies out so quickly. Shot by Eros' arrow of love, everyone becomes blind to a certain extent. To have the sweet taste of love, one cannot gulp it down voraciously and hastily; instead, one should sip it like aromatic coffee. Slowly and carefully, you taste its true essence; otherwise, what you feel is nothing but bitterness. The advice Friar Lawrence gives to Romeo is immortal in that it points out moderation as the best policy in life.
Recently, the role of“the third party” in extra-marital affairs has become a hot issue. The scandal of two famous English teachers triggered the debate on this issue. One celibrity, taking the role of the third party, even claims herself “innocent”in a TV talk show. She emphasizes that her passion toward the married man is harmless, as she doesn’t ask for anything material from him. What she wants is only the comfort of being with him. Yet, this is a misleading fallacy. Extra-marital love is by no means “innocent”; nor can it be justified. The third party may well be said a thief as she / he steals a man/woman’s heart, which should be devoted to his/her family. Such love is totally selfish as it ignores others’ feelings. Furthermore, falling in love is a voluntary act; it is not imposed by or forced upon by “destiny” or “instinct”as some “third party”claims. One never falls in love unless he or she wants to. There must be some emptiness in their heart that makes them glance around to look for whom to love. So, every time when they fall in love, they release a switch in their solitude, catching the beloved object as if he /she were the savior of their emptiness. This is the true nature of falling in love. We can always avoid being the third party by self-discipline. It is not something beyond our control. It is something which needs to be understood and then banished forever!
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